Hello everyone. (: How is everyone doing? Here's me wishing all of you good health. Hope you are all doing good. I realised how often I keep on apologising for not being able to update frequently? ;P Well, I won't do it again because I'm sure all of you understand. I notice an increase in the site meter. So it made me feel anxious in wanting to update my blog. Haha.
I'm actually in the midst of studying for my upcoming test tomorrow. But I think I need to get some things off my mind and I know I can do so by blogging! :) Negativity aside (as I do not want my blog to turn into a nasty one), I would love to share some stuff I found online. Pretty interesting I must say. Here it goes.
Have you ever felt self-pity? When you start thinking and asking/saying this to yourself.. "Am I pretty enough?", "I'm not good enough for you.", "Am I making the right choice?", "I suck big time. I can't even handle simple issues." Et cetera. It's when you start feeling sorry for yourself and feel that everything seems to go wrong and not your way. It's when you feel that you are not good enough.
You know those sucky feelings? Yeah tell me about it.
I've learned that self-pity is the opposite of self-esteem. You feel that way because somehow, you feel that there's no one there for you, by your side, who are there to push you, motivate you and make you feel happy and satisfied. With that, you feel a sense of lack. Sometimes, you expect these people around you to be there and do all the things that can satisfy you and make you happy.
The question is, how do you even know if those around you are not trying? Trying to make you happy. Trying their best to push you, motivate you, be there for you, would sacrifice much to make you feel better. How do you know? How do you tell? Sometimes we expect too much from others. We imagine them to have that certain amount of strength to do so FOR us. What if they already did? But it's just not up to our expectations?
The feeling of self-pity is like you're maintaining a childlike character within you and you wish to be dependent. Or maybe it's without realisation. And this is keeping you bereft. It's also something like self-denying. You deny yourself of being a better person.
What I found online is something that all of us may take considerations to - The points given by Deepak Chopra. I do feel this too sometimes, I'm human after all. Just remember that your enemy is apathy. As much as I don't want my blog to turn negative, I guess I'll just spill out what I wanted to, nicely.
I'm a neutral person. I don't like making enemies. (Okay maybe worst comes to worst, I may use the word "dislike" sometimes. But not hate.) If you don't like me, there's nothing I can do to please you. But me being me, I'll always try my best to make the ones I love happy. But, that's your choice to decide what to do next. If you are not happy about the things that I do, say it. Better would be saying it to my face. It's better to clear things you know?
If you want me to fulfill something that is among the wishes that you aimed, then, make it happen. Tough things, at times, are meant to be solved together. Not as individual. Cooperation is needed.
I have my own problems too. But I don't have to show it and tell it to the whole world. Because it's not necessary. Sometimes, you just have to think that others have their own issues and can't possibly focus only on one. Like I said, if you want things to be done, cooperate.
Just keep this in mind everyone, I'm human - not a robot whom you may program to make me do the things you want, your way. I love everyone of my friends and I won't want to compromise anything to break my friendship between anyone.
Now I need to get back to studying. Take good care people!
Reference: How to stop feeling self-pity.
